As people in recovery, we all face starting over and taking another chance at our goals, dreams and desires. We face setbacks, challenges, roadblocks, time, financial insecurity, and other adversarial issues. One of the best aspects about getting and staying sober is the ability to start over. At any time we can start over and give ourselves a new beginning to the day. I used to walk through my day and was unaware of the language that I used. How many times do we say “I have to go to work or I have to go here or there” That kind of language sounds and looks normal to most and at one point I used those same words. “I have to go and workout today or I have to run today for my training.” Those words are incredibly wrong and I learned that early on in sobriety. When I was first starting to come around I would tell my support group “I have to go or I have to do.” At one point, a good friend stopped me in the middle of talking and said “hey!’ You don’t have to do sh** which stunned me and through me off track. He stopped and said you don’t have to do anything today……You GET to: You get to go and you get to do. In early sobriety I learned a very important lesson in certain language that I was using. I started to pay attention to my language and how I spoke about daily activities.
I find that working with people and listening to how they speak allows me to better understand what is standing in their way from accomplishing their fitness goals. Most of the time people share about not HAVING time to do anything and that they HAVE to do so many other things than take care of their health and wellness. It is not a priority and the same cycle of starting and stopping a health program continues. It is only by changing our language and stating that we GET to work out, we GET to eat healthy, we GET to live our life as best we possibly can does the process of starting over begin. We all made tough decisions and have arrived at living our best sober life. Each day we GET to do the things that led us to sobriety one day at a time. It can be the same for our health, wellness and fitness program.
Some helpful suggestions to launch a health and fitness goal oriented program is to decide what you want, write it down, tell a coach and or accountability person about it and change your language. You get to live life every day, one day at a time. Look at the time you get in the day and take massive action to get it done. Everyone gets the same 24 hours and how you start is how you finish. Get up early and change your routine. You will be amazed how much you can get done early in the morning before the sun comes up when most others are sleeping. It is quiet, there are less distractions and noise and it gives you the time to start the day with a giant step forward. Prepare meals for the day and what you want to eat. By thinking ahead and preparing you are more likely to eat and stay on track than when having no plan at all. Everyone loves to grab lunch and go out but if prepared you are more likely to stay on track. Finally write 3 things down for the day that you can repeat to yourself when a challenge comes up and you get the tendency to fall off track. For me it is: I get to live a healthy life, I get to put in the effort and I get to be sober. Those 3 statements change my mindset if I am struggling throughout the day. Remember, at any time you can start over however when you change your language from “have to” into “get to” it doesn’t seem like you starting over all of the time. Here is to another awesome day of GETTING to live. Enjoy the day and be awesome.