“What are you willing to do to get what you say you want?”
– Robin K.
After we have been in recovery for a while – and this length of time varies with each of us – we come to realize that if we keep doing what we’re doing, one day at a time, we can stay clean and sober. We see that for a long time, sobriety was the most important item on our wish list and now we have it. Thank God!
With sobriety, many of us find that there are countless more issues on our wish list and that sobriety has failed to make much of a dent in them. These problems might be centered around work, home life or health, among others. If we gently reflect on our lives and how we got comfortable in recovery, one thing becomes crystal clear: what we are doing is unlikely to get us what we want!
We may mutter under our breath about the boss, our coworkers or family members. However, they seem to have adjusted to us as sober persons. We can no longer expect voluntary movement from them. We probably shouldn’t even hope for it. To get what we want, we must do something new and different.
The same holds true for any issues around our health. We can make promises to do something about our health; but in remembering our recovery, we can see the folly of promises of future action. For all of these issues, the time is now and we must do something new. Let us now look at the truth that was revealed to us earlier. We could not get clean and sober by ourselves. We needed, and still need, God’s help, and the help of people who have been where we are and have gone beyond the problem, just as we did to get clean and sober. They are available.
If we say we want something, we must ask ourselves if we are willing to seek help.
Mike Lyding has been drawn to prayer and meditation since becoming sober in December 1993. At age 58, while meditating, he discovered he had a desire to write. Thus far, the result has been two daily meditation books written primarily for recovering communities: Grateful Not Smug (2006) and Gratitude a Verb (2009).
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